2.1 Setting and Reaching Goals
Learning Objectives
- Make short-, mid-, and long-term goals that are realistic and specific and commit to them.
- Set priorities for reaching your goals as a basis for time management.
- Develop an attitude for success.
- Learn to use strategies for staying focused and motivated.
- Network with other students to help ensure academic success.
- Solve problems and overcome setbacks that threaten your goals.
Some people are goal oriented and seem to easily make decisions that lead to achieving their goalsA result or achievement toward which one directs one’s efforts.,
while others seem just to “go with the flow” and accept what life gives
them. While the latter may sound pleasantly relaxed, moving through
life without goals may not lead anywhere at all. The fact that you’re in
college now shows you already have the major goal to complete your
college program.
A goal is a
result we intend to reach mostly through our own actions. Things we do
may move us closer to or farther away from that result. Studying moves
us closer to success in a difficult course, while sleeping through the
final examination may completely prevent reaching that goal. That’s
fairly obvious in an extreme case, yet still a lot of college students
don’t reach their goal of graduating. The problem may be a lack of
commitment to the goal, but often students have conflicting goals. One
way to prevent problems is to think about all your goals and prioritiesSomething that is more important than other things or given special attention.
and to learn ways to manage your time, your studies, and your social
life to best reach your goals. Consider these four students:
To help his
widowed mother, Juan went to work full time after high school but now, a
few years later, he’s dissatisfied with the kinds of jobs he has been
able to get and has begun taking computer programming courses in the
evening. He’s often tired after work, however, and his mother would like
him to spend more time at home. Sometimes he cuts class to stay home
and spend time with her.
In her
senior year of college, Becky has just been elected president of her
sorority and is excited about planning a major community service
project. She knows she should be spending more time on her senior
thesis, but she feels her community project may gain her contacts that
can help her find a better job after graduation. Besides, the sorority
project is a lot more fun, and she’s enjoying the esteem of her
position. Even if she doesn’t do well on her thesis, she’s sure she’ll
pass.
After an
easy time in high school, James is surprised his college classes are so
hard. He’s got enough time to study for his first-year courses, but he
also has a lot of friends and fun things to do. Sometimes he’s surprised
to look up from his computer to see it’s midnight already, and he
hasn’t started reading that chapter yet. Where does the time go? When
he’s stressed, however, he can’t study well, so he tells himself he’ll
get up early and read the chapter before class, and then he turns back
to his computer to see who’s online.
Sachito was
successful in cutting back her hours at work to give her more time for
her engineering classes, but it’s difficult for her to get much studying
done at home. Her husband has been wonderful about taking care of their
young daughter, but he can’t do everything, and lately he’s been
hinting more about asking her sister to babysit so that the two of them
can go out in the evening the way they used to. Lately, when she’s had
to study on a weekend, he leaves with his friends, and Sachito ends up
spending the day with her daughter—and not getting much studying done.
What do
these very different students have in common? Each has goals that
conflict in one or more ways. Each needs to develop strategies to meet
their other goals without threatening their academic success. And all of
them have time management issues to work through: three because they
feel they don’t have enough time to do everything they want or need to
do and one because even though he has enough time, he needs to learn how
to manage it more effectively. For all four of them, motivation and
attitude will be important as they develop strategies to achieve their
goals.
It all begins with setting goals and thinking about priorities.
As you
think about your own goals, think about more than just being a student.
You’re also a person with individual needs and desires, hopes and
dreams, plans and schemes. Your long-term goals likely include
graduation and a career but may also involve social relationships with
others, a romantic relationship, family, hobbies or other activities,
where and how you live, and so on. While you are a student you may not
be actively pursuing all your goals with the same fervor, but they
remain goals and are still important in your life.
Goals also
vary in terms of time. Short-term goals focus on today and the next few
days and perhaps weeks. Midterm goals involve plans for this school
year and the time you plan to remain in college. Long-term goals may
begin with graduating college and everything you want to happen
thereafter. Often your long-term goals (e.g., the kind of career you
want) guide your midterm goals (getting the right education for that
career), and your short-term goals (such as doing well on an exam)
become steps for reaching those larger goals. Thinking about your goals
in this way helps you realize how even the little things you do every
day can keep you moving toward your most important long-term goals.
Write out your goals in Activity 1. You should literally write
them down, because the act of finding the best words to describe your
goals helps you think more clearly about them. Follow these guidelines:
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Goals should be realistic. It’s good to dream and to challenge yourself, but your goals should relate to your personal strengths and abilities.
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Goals should be specific. Don’t
write, “I will become a great musician”; instead, write, “I will finish
my music degree and be employed in a symphony orchestra.”
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Goals should have a time frame.
You won’t feel very motivated if your goal is vaguely “to finish college
someday.” If you’re realistic and specific in your goals, you should
also be able to project a time frame for reaching the goal.
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You should really want to reach the goal.
We’re willing to work hard to reach goals we really care about, but
we’re likely to give up when we encounter obstacles if we don’t feel
strongly about a goal. If you’re doing something only because your
parents or someone else wants you to, then it’s not your own personal
goal—and you may have some more thinking to do about your life.
Activity 1: Personal Goals
Write your goals in the following blanks. Be sure to consider all areas of your life—consider everything important
that you want to do between this moment and old age. (While you might
aim for three to eight goals in each section, remember that everyone is
unique, and you may be just as passionate about just one or two goals or
more than eight.)
Short-term goals (today, this week, and this month):
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Priorities
Thinking
about your goals gets you started, but it’s also important to think
about priorities. We often use the word “priorities” to refer to how
important something is to us. We might think, This is a really important goal, and that
is less important. Try this experiment: go back to the goals you wrote
in Activity 1 and see if you can rank each goal as a 1 (top priority), 2
(middle priority), or 3 (lowest priority).
It
sounds easy, but do you actually feel comfortable doing that? Maybe you
gave a priority 1 to passing your courses and a priority 3 to playing
your guitar. So what does that mean—that you never play guitar again, or
at least not while in college? Whenever you have an hour free between
class and work, you have to study because that’s the higher priority?
What about all your other goals—do you have to ignore everything that’s
not a priority 1? And what happens when you have to choose among
different goals that are both number 1 priorities?
In reality, priorities don’t work quite that way. It doesn’t make a lot of sense to try to rank goals as always more or less important. The question of priority is really a question of what is more important at a specific time.
It is important to do well in your classes, but it’s also important to
have a social life and enjoy your time off from studying. You shouldn’t
have to choose between the two—except at any given time. Priorities always involve time: what is most important to do right now. As we’ll see later, time management is mostly a way to juggle priorities so you can meet all your goals.
When
you manage your time well, you don’t have to ignore some goals
completely in order to meet other goals. In other words, you don’t have
to give up your life when you register for college—but you may need to
work on managing your life more effectively.
But
time management works only when you’re committed to your goals.
Attitude and motivation are very important. If you haven’t yet developed
an attitude for success, all the time management skills in the world
won’t keep you focused and motivated to succeed.
An Attitude for Success
What’s your attitude right now—what
started running through your mind as you saw the “An Attitude for
Success” heading? Were you groaning to yourself, thinking, “No, not the
attitude thing again!” Or, at the other extreme, maybe you were
thinking, “This is great! Now I’m about to learn everything I need to
get through college without a problem!” Those are two attitude extremes,
one negative and skeptical, the other positive and hopeful. Most
students are somewhere in between—but everyone has an attitude of one sort or another.
Everything
people do and how they do it starts with attitude. One student gets up
with the alarm clock and cheerfully prepares for the day, planning to
study for a couple hours between classes, go jogging later, and see a
friend at dinner. Another student oversleeps after partying too late
last night, decides to skip his first class, somehow gets through later
classes fueled by fast food and energy drinks while dreading tomorrow’s
exam, and immediately accepts a friend’s suggestion to go out tonight
instead of studying. Both students could have identical situations,
classes, finances, and academic preparation. There could be just one
significant difference—but it’s the one that matters.
Here are some characteristics associated with a positive attitude:
- Enthusiasm for and enjoyment of daily activities
- Acceptance of responsibility for one’s actions and feeling good about success
- Generally upbeat mood and positive emotions, cheerfulness with others, and satisfaction with oneself
- Motivation to get the job done
- Flexibility to make changes when needed
- Ability to make productive, effective use of time
And here are some characteristics associated with a negative attitude:
- Frequent complaining
- Blaming others for anything that goes wrong
- Often experiencing negative emotions: anger, depression, resentment
- Lack of motivation for work or studies
- Hesitant to change or seek improvement
- Unproductive use of time, procrastination
We started
this chapter talking about goals, because people’s goals and priorities
have a huge effect on their attitude. Someone who really wants to
succeed in college is better motivated and can develop a more positive
attitude to succeed. But what if you are committed to succeeding in
college but still feel kind of doubtful or worried or even down on
yourself—what can you do then? Can people really change their attitude?
Aren’t people just “naturally” positive or negative or whatever?
While
attitude is influenced by one’s personality, upbringing, and past
experiences, there is no “attitude gene” that makes you one way or
another. It’s not as simple as taking a pill, but attitude can be
changed. If you’re committed to your goals, you can learn to adjust your
attitude. The following are some things you can start doing.
Be More Upbeat with Yourself
We
all have conversations with ourselves. I might do badly on a test, and I
start thinking things like, “I’m just not smart enough” or “That
teacher is so hard no one could pass that test.” The problem when we
talk to ourselves this way is that we listen—and we start believing what
we’re hearing. Think about what you’ve been saying to yourself since
your first day at college. Have you been negative or making excuses,
maybe because you’re afraid of not succeeding? You are
smart enough or you wouldn’t be here. Even if you did poorly on a test,
you can turn that around into a more positive attitude by taking
responsibility. “OK, I goofed off too much when I should have been
studying. I learned my lesson—now it’s time to buckle down and study for
the next test. I’m going to ace this one!” Hear yourself saying that
enough and guess what—you soon find out you can succeed even in your hardest classes.
Choose Whom You Spend Time With
We
all know negative and positive people. Sometimes it’s fun to hang out
with someone with a negative attitude, especially if their sarcasm is
funny. And if we’ve just failed a test, we might enjoy being with
someone else who also blames the instructor or “the system” for whatever
goes wrong. As they say, misery loves company. But often being with
negative people is one of the surest ways to stay negative yourself. You
not only hear your own self-talk making excuses and blaming others and
putting yourself down, but you hear other people saying it, too. After a
while you’re convinced it’s true. You’ve developed a negative attitude
that sets you up for failure.
College
offers a great opportunity to make new friends. Friendships and other
social relationships are important to all humans—and maybe to college
students most of all, because of the stresses of college and the changes
you’re likely experiencing. Later chapters in this book have some tips
for making new friends and getting actively involved in campus life, if
you’re not already there. Most important, try to choose friends with a
positive attitude. It’s simply more fun to be with people who are upbeat
and enjoying life, people whom you respect—and who, like you, are
committed to their studies and are motivated. A positive attitude can
really be contagious.
Overcome Resistance to Change
While
it’s true that most people are more comfortable when their situation is
not always changing, many kinds of change are good and should be
welcomed. College is a big change from high school or working. Accepting
that reality helps you be more positive about the differences. Sure,
you have to study more, and the classes are harder. You may be working
more and have less time for your personal life. But dwelling on those
differences only reinforces a negative attitude. Look instead at the
positive changes: the exciting and interesting people you’re meeting,
the education you’re getting that will lead to a bright future, and the
mental challenges and stimulation you’re feeling every day.
The
first step may be simply to see yourself succeeding in your new life.
Visualize yourself as a student taking control, enjoying classes,
studying effectively, getting good grades. This book will help you do
that in many ways. It all begins with the right attitude.
Overcome Fears
One
of the most common fears of college students is a fear of failure—of
not being able to make the grade. We all know that life is not all roses
and that we’re not going to succeed at everything we try. Everyone
experiences some sort of failure at some time—and everyone has fears.
The question is what you do about it.
Again,
think about your goals. You’ve enrolled in college for good reasons,
and you’ve already shown your commitment by coming this far. If you
still have any fear of failure, turn it around and use it in a positive
way. If you’re afraid you may not do well on an upcoming exam, don’t
mope around—sit down and schedule times to start studying well ahead of
time. It’s mostly a matter of attitude adjustment.
Stay Focused and Motivated
Okay,
you’ve got a positive attitude. But you’ve got a lot of reading for
classes to do tonight, a test tomorrow, and a paper due the next day.
Maybe you’re a little bored with one of your reading assignments. Maybe
you’d rather play a computer game. Uh oh—now what? Attitude can change
at almost any moment. One minute you’re enthusiastically starting a
class project, and then maybe a friend drops by and suddenly all you
want to do is close the books and relax a while, hang out with friends.
One
of the characteristics of successful people is accepting that life is
full of interruptions and change—and planning for it. Staying focused
does not mean you become a boring person who does nothing but go to
class and study all the time. You just need to make a plan.
Planning
ahead is the single best way to stay focused and motivated to reach
your goals. Don’t wait until the night before an exam. If you know you
have a major exam in five days, start by reviewing the material and
deciding how many hours of study you need. Then schedule those hours
spread out over the next few days—at times when you are most alert and
least likely to be distracted. Allow time for other activities, too, to
reward yourself for successful studying. Then when the exam comes,
you’re relaxed, you know the material, you’re in a good mood and
confident, and you do well.
Planning
is mostly a matter of managing your time well, as we’ll see later. Here
are some other tips for staying focused and motivated:
- If you’re not feeling motivated, think about the results of your
goals, not just the goals themselves. If just thinking about finishing
college doesn’t sound all that exciting, then think instead about the
great, high-paying career that comes afterward and the things you can do
with that income.
- Say it aloud—to yourself or a friend with a positive
attitude: “I’m going to study now for another hour before I take a
break—and I’m getting an A on that test tomorrow!” It’s amazing how
saying something aloud puts commitment in it and affirms that it can be
true.
- Remember your successes, even small successes. As you
begin a project or approach studying for a test, think about your past
success on a different project or test. Remember how good it feels to
succeed. Know you can succeed again.
- Focus on the here and now. For some people, looking
ahead to goals, or to anything else, may lead to daydreaming that keeps
them from focusing on what they need to do right now. Don’t worry about
what you’re doing tomorrow or next week or month. If your mind keeps
drifting off, however, you may need to reward or even trick yourself to
focus on the here and now. For example, if you can’t stop thinking about
the snack you’re going to have when you finish studying in a couple
hours, change the plan. Tell yourself you’ll take a break in twenty
minutes if you really need it—but only if you really work well first.
- If you just can’t focus in on what you should be doing
because the task seems too big and daunting, break the task into
smaller, manageable pieces. Don’t start out thinking, “I need to study
the next four hours,” but think, “I’ll spend the next thirty minutes
going through my class notes from the last three weeks and figure out
what topics I need to spend more time on.” It’s a lot easier to stay
focused when you’re sitting down for thirty minutes at a time.
- Never, ever multitask while studying! You may think that
you can monitor e-mail and send text messages while studying, but in
reality, these other activities lower the quality of your studying.
- Imitate successful people. Does a friend always seem
better able to stick with studying or work until they get it done? What
are they doing that you’re not? We all learn from observing others, and
we can speed up that process by deliberately using the same strategies
we see working with others. Visualize yourself studying in the same way and getting that same high grade on the test or paper.
- Separate yourself from unsuccessful people. This is the
flip side of imitating successful people. If a roommate or a friend is
always putting off things until the last minute or is distracted with
other interests and activities, tell yourself how different you are.
When you hear other students complaining about how hard a class is or
bragging about not studying or attending class, visualize yourself as
not being like them at all.
- Reward yourself when you complete a significant task—but
only when you are done. Some people seem able to stay focused only when
there’s a reward waiting.
- While some people work harder for the reward, others are
motivated more by the price of failing. While some people are almost
paralyzed by anxiety, others are moved by their fear to achieve their
best.
- Get the important things done first. We’ll talk about
managing your academic planner and to-do lists later in the chapter, but
for now, to stay focused and motivated, concentrate on the things that
matter most. You’re about to sit down to read a chapter in a book you’re
not much enjoying, and you suddenly notice some clothing piled up on a
chair. “I really should clean up this place,” you think. “And I’d better
get my laundry done before I run out of things to wear.” Don’t try to
fool yourself into feeling you’re accomplishing something by doing
laundry rather than studying. Stay focused!
Network for Success
Making
friends with people with positive attitudes not only helps you maintain
a positive attitude yourself, but it gets you started networking with
other students in ways that will help you succeed.
Did
you study alone or with friends in high school? Because college classes
are typically much more challenging, many college students discover
they do better, and find it much more enjoyable, if they study with
other students taking same course. This might mean organizing a study
group or just getting together with a friend to review material before a
test. It’s good to start thinking right away about networking with
other students in your classes.
If
you consider yourself an independent person and prefer studying and
doing projects on your own rather than with others, think for a minute
about how most people function in their careers and professions, what
the business world is like. Most work today is done by teams or
individuals working together in a collaborative way. Very few jobs
involve a person always being and working alone. The more you learn to
study and work with other students now, the more skills you are
mastering for a successful career.
Studying
with other students has immediate benefits. You can quiz each other to
help ensure that everyone understands the course material; if you’re not
clear about something, someone else can help teach it to you. You can
read and respond to each other’s writing and other work. You can divide
up the work in group projects. And through it all, you can often have
more fun than if you were doing it on your own.
Studying
together is also a great way to start networking—a topic we’ll discuss
more in coming chapters. Networking has many potential benefits for your
future. College students who feel they are part of a network on campus
are more motivated and more successful in college.
Tips for Success: Staying Motivated
- Keep your eye on your long-term goals while working toward immediate goals.
- Keep your priorities straight—but also save some time for fun.
- Work on keeping your attitude positive.
- Keep the company of positive people; imitate successful people.
- Don’t let past habits drag you down.
- Plan ahead to avoid last-minute pressures.
- Focus on your successes.
- Break large projects down into smaller tasks or stages.
- Reward yourself for completing significant tasks.
- Avoid multitasking.
- Network with other students; form a study group.
Problem Solving: When Setbacks Happen
Even when you have clear goals and are motivated and focused to achieve them, problems sometimes happen. Accept that they will
happen, since inevitably they do for everyone. The difference between
those who succeed by solving the problem and moving on and those who get
frustrated and give up is partly attitude and partly experience—and
knowing how to cope when a problem occurs.
Lots of different kinds of setbacks may happen while you’re in college—just as to everyone in life. Here are a few examples:
- A financial crisis
- An illness or injury
- A crisis involving family members or loved ones
- Stress related to frequently feeling you don’t have enough time
- Stress related to relationship problems
Some
things happen that we cannot prevent—such as some kinds of illness,
losing one’s job because of a business slowdown, or crises involving
family members. But many other kinds of problems can be prevented or
made less likely to occur. You can take steps to stay healthy, as you’ll
learn in . You can take control of your finances and avoid most financial problems common among college students, as you’ll learn in .
You can learn how to build successful social relationships and get
along better with your instructors, with other students, and in personal
relationships. You can learn time management techniques to ensure you
use your time effectively for studying. Most of the chapters in this
book also provide study tips and guidelines to help you do well in your
classes with effective reading, note-taking, test-taking, and writing
skills for classes. Preventing the problems that typically keep college students from succeeding is much of what this book is all about.
Not
all problems can be avoided. Illness or a financial problem can
significantly set one back—especially when you’re on a tight schedule
and budget. Other problems, such as a social or relationship issue or an
academic problem in a certain class, may be more complex and not easily
prevented. What then?
First, work to resolve the immediate problem:
- Stay motivated and focused. Don’t let frustration, anxiety, or other
negative emotions make the problem worse than it already is.
- Analyze the problem to consider all possible solutions.
An unexpected financial setback doesn’t automatically mean you have to
drop out of school—not when alternatives such as student loans, less
expensive living arrangements, or other possible solutions may be
available. Failing a midterm exam doesn’t automatically mean you’re
going to fail the course—not when you make the effort to determine what
went wrong, work with your instructor and others on an improved study
plan, and use better strategies to prepare for the next test.
- Seek help when you need to. None of us gets through life
alone, and it’s not a sign of weakness to see your academic advisor or a
college counselor if you have a problem.
- When you’ve developed a plan for resolving the problem,
work to follow through. If it will take a while before the problem is
completely solved, track your progress in smaller steps so that you can
see you really are succeeding. Every day will move you one step closer
to putting it behind you.
After you’ve solved a problem, be sure to avoid it again in the future:
- Be honest with yourself: how did you contribute to the problem?
Sometimes it’s obvious: a student who drank heavily at a party the night
before a big test failed the exam because he was so hung over he
couldn’t think straight. Sometimes the source of the problem is not as
obvious but may become clearer the more you think about it. Another
student did a lot of partying during the term but studied all day before
the big test and was well rested and clearheaded at test time but still
did poorly; he may not yet have learned good study skills. Another
student has frequent colds and other mild illnesses that keep him from
doing his best: how much better would he feel if he ate well, got plenty
of exercise, and slept enough every night? If you don’t honestly
explore the factors that led to the problem, it’s more likely to happen
again.
- Take responsibility for your life and your role in what
happens to you. Earlier we talked about people with negative attitudes,
who are always blaming others, fate, or “the system” for their problems.
It’s no coincidence that they keep on having problems. Unless you want to keep having problems, don’t keep blaming others.
- Taking responsibility doesn’t mean being down on yourself. Failing at something doesn’t mean you
are a failure. We all fail at something, sometime. Adjust your attitude
so you’re ready to get back on track and feel happy that you’ll never
make that mistake again!
- Make a plan. You might still have a problem on that next
big test if you don’t make an effective study plan and stick to it. You
may need to change your behavior in some way, such as learning time
management strategies. (Read on!)
Key Takeaways
- Goals should be realistic, specific, and time oriented, and you must be committed to them.
- Setting priorities helps keep you focused on your goals but doesn’t determine how you use your time at all times.
- Attitude is often the major reason students succeed
or fail in college. Everyone can work on developing a more positive,
motivating attitude.
- Planning, the essence of time management, is necessary to stay focused and continue moving toward your goals.
- Networking with other students helps you stay motivated as well as making studying more effective.
- Since problems and setbacks are inevitable, knowing
how to solve problems is important for reaching goals. With a good
attitude, most common student problems can be prevented.
Checkpoint Exercises
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Which of the following goal
statements is written in a way that shows the person has carefully
considered what he or she wants to achieve?
- I will do better in my math course.
- I will earn at least a B on my next English paper.
- I will study more this term.
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List ways in which a negative attitude can prevent students from being successful in college.
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Think about your friends in college
or other students you have observed in one of your classes. Choose one
who usually seems positive and upbeat and one who sometimes or
frequently shows a negative attitude about college. Visualize both their
faces—side by side—as if you are talking to both of them. Now imagine
yourself sitting down to study with one of them for a final exam.
Describe how you would imagine that study session going.
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Look back at the four students
described at the beginning of the chapter. Each of them is experiencing
some sort of problem that could interrupt their progress toward their
goals. Think about each student and write down a solution for each
problem that you would try to work out, if you were that person.
For Juan:
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For Becky:
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For James:
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For Sachito:
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List a few things you can do if you’re having trouble getting motivated to sit down to study.
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